The term “alpha male” is frequently thrown around, often associated with assertiveness and dominance. Some men strive to fit this mold, projecting an image of strength and control to mask their insecurities.
Interestingly, psychology reveals certain things that so-called “fake alpha males” often feel threatened or emasculated by.
Let’s take a closer look at these phenomena.
1) Embracing vulnerability
A common misconception is that displaying vulnerability is a sign of weakness. This misconception is often held onto tightly by those who identify as “alpha males”.
They believe that to show any hint of vulnerability would be betraying their alpha status.
However, the reality is that embracing vulnerability is a sign of true strength and authenticity.
It requires courage to acknowledge our fears, insecurities, and limitations, and to share these aspects of ourselves with others.
Many “fake alpha males” feel threatened by this concept. They equate vulnerability with being emasculated, when in fact, the opposite is true.
Psychology tells us that those who are comfortable with their vulnerabilities tend to have higher self-esteem, better mental health, and more fulfilling relationships.
Authenticity and vulnerability go hand in hand. They are not signs of weakness but reflections of our shared humanity.
It’s through acknowledging our vulnerabilities that we can truly connect with others on a deep and meaningful level.
The fear of vulnerability can lead to a life lived behind a mask. Embrace your vulnerabilities. They are what make you human. You’re not less of a man for doing so, but rather, you become more of one.
2) Seeking validation
Seeking validation is another common behavior that “fake alpha males” often exhibit. They frequently seek approval from others as a way to affirm their self-worth.
This is because their sense of value is externally based, making them feel emasculated when they don’t receive the validation they crave.
On the contrary, those who are secure in their masculinity understand that self-worth is an internal matter. It’s not about how many compliments you receive or how attractive others find you.
It’s about living in alignment with your personal values and acting with integrity.
Feeling the need for constant validation can trap you in a cycle of insecurity. The solution lies in cultivating self-compassion and recognizing that your worth does not depend on external affirmation.
As Brené Brown, a research professor and author who has extensively studied courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, said: “You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.”
True strength lies in owning your story, embracing who you are, and understanding that your worth is not dependent on anyone else’s validation.
3) Staying within societal conditioning
“Fake alpha males” often feel threatened when they’re encouraged to break free from societal norms and conditioning. This fear stems from a deep-seated need to maintain a certain image or persona.
However, true liberation and authenticity come from transcending these limitations. A powerful way to do so is through the “Free Your Mind” masterclass with the shaman Rudá Iandê.
This enlightening journey, a masterclass I was deeply involved in producing, is designed to help you overcome self-imposed limitations and embrace your true potential.
Rudá guides participants in this masterclass through exercises that dismantle common myths in the spiritual world. He emphasizes developing a personal cosmovision and breaking free from mental and cultural conditioning.
By aligning your thoughts and actions with your personal values, you foster improved mental clarity and emotional resilience.
Taking part in this masterclass is more than just about learning; it’s about proactive steps towards personal growth and understanding oneself better. I
f you’re interested, I invite you to join the masterclass and start your journey towards mental and emotional liberation.
4) Refusing to self-reflect
Another aspect that “fake alpha males” often feel emasculated by is the act of self-reflection. This is likely because it requires looking honestly at oneself, acknowledging personal flaws, and admitting that there’s room for growth.
However, honest self-reflection is a fundamental part of personal development. It allows us to understand ourselves better, recognize our patterns, and make changes where necessary.
Moreover, it can lead to greater self-awareness and authenticity—qualities that are far more admirable than a superficially constructed alpha persona.
Just as the “Free Your Mind” masterclass emphasizes, embracing our true potential often requires us to confront and overcome our self-imposed limitations. This can only be achieved through honest self-reflection.
Refusing to engage in self-reflection is like choosing to stay stuck in the same patterns, unaware of your own potential for growth and authenticity.
So ask yourself: Are you willing to take an honest look at yourself and embrace the potential for growth? Or will you continue hiding behind the mask of a “fake alpha male”?
5) Prioritizing competition over cooperation
“Fake alpha males” often feel threatened by the idea of cooperation. They believe that they must always be the best, the most dominant, and that working together with others somehow diminishes their status.
However, this is far from the truth. Real strength lies not in dominating others but in building strong and supportive communities.
It’s through our connections with others that we find the resilience to overcome challenges and the joy of shared experiences.
In a world where competition is often prioritized over cooperation, it’s easy to lose sight of the profound importance of authentic relationships.
We’re social creatures by nature, and our greatest achievements are often the result of collaboration.
Choosing cooperation over competition doesn’t make you less of an “alpha male”; it makes you a stronger, more connected human being.
As the saying goes, “Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.”
6) Avoidance of personal growth
Personal growth often involves confronting our fears and challenging our limiting beliefs. “Fake alpha males” tend to avoid this, as it pushes them out of their comfort zones and forces them to face aspects of themselves they’d rather ignore.
This avoidance often leaves them feeling emasculated when confronted with the prospect of personal development.
However, personal growth is a crucial part of becoming a more authentic, compassionate, and resilient individual. It’s about doing the inner work to confront our fears, challenge limiting beliefs, and cultivate self-compassion.
One might feel emasculated by the prospect of personal growth because it implies that there’s something that needs to change or improve.
But change is a part of life, and personal growth is merely an acknowledgment of that fact.
So rather than avoiding personal growth, embrace it. See it as an opportunity to learn more about yourself and to become a better version of yourself.
7) Fear of failure
“Fake alpha males” often feel emasculated by the prospect of failure. They view failure as a hit to their ego, a sign of weakness, something to be avoided at all costs.
But here’s the truth: Failure is not a sign of weakness. On the contrary, it’s one of the most potent tools for growth and learning available to us.
Instead of getting discouraged by failure, we can choose to view it as feedback and an invitation to adapt and evolve.
The fear of failure can hold us back from taking risks and pursuing our dreams. But every setback contains within it the seeds of creative possibility.
So don’t be emasculated by failure; embrace it. Use it as an opportunity for growth and learning. Remember, every challenge contains within it the seeds of creative possibility.
Embracing authentic masculinity
For those ready to dive deeper into these principles and transcend societal conditioning, I can’t recommend enough the “Free Your Mind” masterclass with Rudá Iandê.
This enlightening journey, which I was deeply involved in producing, is designed to help you embrace your true potential.
In this masterclass, Rudá Iandê breaks down common spiritual myths and guides you towards developing a personal cosmovision.
He provides exercises to overcome self-imposed limitations and foster mental clarity and emotional resilience.
By aligning your thoughts and actions with your personal values, this masterclass enables you to break free from societal conditioning and step into a life of greater authenticity.
For those interested in truly embracing their authentic selves, you can join the masterclass and embark on this transformative journey.
