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Ask more questions: If It Was Good Enough for Plato, It’s Good Enough for You

An inquiring mind leads to better communication and avoidance of mutual mystification. Without your incessant clamoring for more information from others, you are fumbling around in the dark. That adds to why most communication is messy, emotional, irrational, unclear, and disorganized. Inquiry takes care of those problems. It makes things clear, rational, and organized when you know and can connect both what you want out of the exchange and what they other people want. You also:

 

Gain new information.

Confirm what you know.

Make others feel valued and heard.

Stimulate conversation exchange.

Avoid acting like a know-it-all.

Show self-confidence.

Satisfy your curiosity.

Get more information to make better decisions and solve problems.

Can push back without attack.

Come across as more interesting.

Create connection and affiliation.

Buy yourself time.

Stay on track in conversation.

Find communal agreement and gain insight as to how to bridge their interests to yours.

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