Pick Your Fights; They Aren’t All Worth It

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bench-press-1013857_640Don’t fight every fight with bullies or attackers, and don’t try to win all the fights you pick.

Ask yourself:

  • Is this important?
  • Is my anger appropriate?
  • Is my anger modifiable?
  • Is this worth taking action?
  • How do I see myself in this? (It’s best to assess and confess to your contribution to the problem.)When you answer those questions, you might wisely choose to ignore the situation. Sometimes it’s not worth the time and action.
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D.A. (Debra) Benton has been helping great individuals and organizations get even better for over 20 years. Just as exceptional athletes rely on excellent coaching to hone their skills, Debra's clients rely on her advice to advance their careers. She focuses on what is truly important to convert what you and your organization want to be from a vision into a reality. TopCEOCoaches.com ranks her in the World's Top 10 CEO Coaches noting she is the top female. And as conference keynote speaker she is routinely rated in the top 2%. Her client list reads like a “Who's Who” of executives in companies ranging from Microsoft, McDonald's, Kraft, American Express, Merrill Lynch, United Airlines, and PricewaterhouseCoopers to the Washington Beltway and U.S.Border Patrol. *She is the author of ten award-winning and best-selling business books including The Virtual Executive and CEO Material. She has written for the Harvard Business Review, Wall Street Journal, Bloomberg Businessweek, and Fast Company. She has been featured in USA Today, Fortune, The New York Times, and Time; she has appeared on Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN, and CBS with Diane Sawyer. To learn more Debra advising leaders, coaching, facilitating a workshop, or speaking: www.debrabenton.com

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