Actions speak louder than words, especially when it comes to relationships.
At times, we might find ourselves tangled in the web of words and actions, trying to figure out if the person really means what they say.
Especially when it comes to men who claim they care about you, it can be quite a challenge to discern their genuine intentions.
While some men may say they care about you, their behavior often tells a different story.
Men who claim to care but don’t truly mean it will usually display these seven revealing behaviors—spotting them early can make all the difference:
1) He’s always too busy
One of the most common behaviors of men who claim they care but don’t genuinely mean it is their apparent lack of time.
You see, there will always be work commitments, social events, and a myriad of other things that’ll compete for their time—but if someone truly cares about you, they’ll make an effort to allocate some of their time for you.
It’s not about having free time; it’s about making time.
If he’s always too busy, it’s time to question the authenticity of his feelings.
2) His words and actions don’t align
Now, this is a big one: I remember being in a relationship where my partner would often say all the right things.
He’d tell me he cared about me, he’d express his love, and he’d make promises about our future together—it all sounded so perfect—but when it came to actions, there was a stark contrast.
For instance, he’d promise to show up for important events in my life but would often cancel at the last minute, citing work commitments or other excuses.
Honestly, his grand words were always followed by disappointing actions.
I learned the hard way that words are just words until they are supported by consistent actions.
A man who genuinely cares will have his actions will mirror his words, remember that.
3) He’s not interested in knowing you better
In any meaningful relationship there’s a genuine desire to understand each other on a deeper level, and this includes knowing each other’s likes, dislikes, dreams, fears, and even the little idiosyncrasies.
However, men who don’t genuinely care might not show this interest—they might engage in small talk or surface-level conversations but shy away from delving deeper.
Psychological studies show that building a deep connection involves self-disclosure by sharing personal experiences and emotions.
This openness fosters trust and intimacy, at the heart of every strong relationship.
Not showing any interest in understanding who you are at your core might be a sign that his feelings aren’t as genuine as he claims.
4) He doesn’t prioritize your needs
In a caring relationship, your partner should value your needs and happiness as much as their own.
Your man should be willing to make compromises and sacrifices to ensure that you are content and comfortable.
Unfortunately, men who don’t genuinely care often tend to prioritize their needs and wants over yours as they might make decisions that benefit them without considering how it might affect you.
If you notice a pattern where your needs are constantly being overlooked or disregarded, it’s definitely a red flag.
Genuine love should always involve mutual respect and consideration.
5) He avoids serious conversations
I have always been a believer in open communication—I think it’s really important to discuss our feelings, fears, and future plans together.
There was a time when I was with someone who would always change the topic or make jokes when I initiated serious conversations.
It was as if he was allergic to anything that required deeper thought or commitment.
This avoidance not only created a distance between us, but it also made me question his sincerity.
If he truly cared, wouldn’t he want to address issues that were important to me?
That being said, facing issues head-on and having difficult conversations is part of any healthy relationship.
6) He doesn’t include you in his plans
When a person truly cares about you, they see you as an integral part of their life.
Being an integral part of his life means he includes you in his future plans, both short-term and long-term.
But, with men who don’t genuinely care, you’ll often find yourself excluded from these plans.
You’ll expect that he might plan trips, outings, or even make significant life decisions without considering your involvement or how it might affect you—making it look like you have absolutely no say in his decisions.
This could indicate that they do not see a long-term future with you or value your role in their life because, in a meaningful relationship, decisions that impact the relationship should be made together.
7) He doesn’t make you feel loved and valued
At the end of the day, the most telling sign of a man’s sincerity is how he makes you feel—if he genuinely cares about you, you should feel loved, valued, and secure in the relationship.
Men who don’t genuinely care often leave you feeling unsure, unappreciated, or undervalued.
These men may not express their love or appreciation for you openly, leaving you constantly questioning their feelings.
Remember, the right person will make you feel cherished and important without any doubts—don’t settle for anything less.
Final thoughts: Trust your instincts
When it comes to relationships, trusting your gut feeling can be powerful—this instinct, rooted in evolution, often guides us toward better decisions.
If his behavior feels off, don’t ignore it and reflect on these seven behaviors to see if they resonate with your experience.
Everyone deserves a relationship filled with genuine love and care so don’t settle for less and gradually learn to trust your instincts—your instincts will reveal what your heart hesitates to accept.
