We all know someone who seems to struggle in every relationship they enter—friendships, family bonds, or romantic connections. They’re always caught up in drama, feeling unappreciated, or wondering why people keep pulling away.
At first, it might seem like bad luck. But the truth is, certain habits can push people away and make it harder to build meaningful, lasting relationships.
The good news? These behaviors aren’t set in stone. Recognizing them is the first step toward change.
Let’s take a look at seven habits that low-quality women tend to have—habits that make it difficult to maintain healthy relationships. If any of these sound familiar, don’t worry. Awareness is the key to growth.
1) They make everything about themselves
We’ve all met someone like this—the kind of person who always steers the conversation back to themselves. No matter what you’re going through, they find a way to make it about their own experiences, feelings, or problems.
At first, it might seem like they just love to share. But over time, it becomes clear that they’re not really listening. They’re waiting for their turn to talk.
Healthy relationships require balance—both people need to feel heard and valued. When someone constantly dominates the conversation and disregards others’ feelings, it creates frustration and emotional distance.
If you notice this habit in yourself, try shifting your focus. Ask more questions. Listen without immediately relating everything to your own life. People appreciate those who genuinely care about what they have to say.
2) They thrive on drama
I used to have a friend who couldn’t go a single week without some kind of conflict. If there wasn’t drama in her life, she would create it—stirring up unnecessary arguments, gossiping about others, or overreacting to minor issues.
At first, I thought she just had bad luck with people. But then I realized the common denominator was her. She seemed to enjoy the chaos as if it gave her life excitement and meaning.
Being around her was exhausting. No conversation was ever peaceful—there was always something or someone to be upset about. Eventually, I had to distance myself because the negativity was draining.
Healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and emotional stability. If you find yourself constantly in the middle of drama, take a step back and ask yourself: Am I inviting this into my life? Peaceful relationships aren’t boring—they’re just healthy.
3) They never take responsibility for their actions
Nothing is ever their fault. If a relationship falls apart, it’s because the other person was toxic. If they lose a friend, it’s because that friend was fake. If they get called out on bad behavior, suddenly they’re the victim.
This kind of mindset is a one-way ticket to broken relationships. No one wants to be around someone who refuses to own up to their mistakes. It’s frustrating, exhausting, and, frankly, immature.
The truth is, we all mess up sometimes. We say things we shouldn’t, we act in ways we regret, and we hurt people—even if we don’t mean to.
What separates high-quality women from those who struggle in relationships is the ability to recognize when they’re wrong, apologize sincerely, and actually do better.
Blaming everyone else might feel easier in the moment, but in the long run? It leaves you lonely.
4) They expect more than they give
Relationships are a two-way street, but some women act like they’re on a one-way road where everything flows toward them. They expect constant support, attention, and effort—but when it’s time to give back, they’re suddenly too busy or uninterested.
I’ve seen this happen in friendships and relationships alike. Someone will demand loyalty but won’t return it. They’ll expect grand gestures but won’t make any effort themselves. They want to be prioritized, yet they never prioritize others.
People eventually notice when they’re being taken for granted. And when they do, they pull away.
If you find yourself always expecting more from others than you’re willing to give, it might be time for some self-reflection. Healthy relationships require mutual effort—not just when it’s convenient for you, but all the time.
5) They struggle to control their emotions
Everyone has bad days. We all get frustrated, upset, or overwhelmed. But when someone constantly lashes out, shuts down, or makes their emotions everyone else’s problem, it takes a toll on their relationships.
Studies have shown that emotional intelligence—the ability to manage emotions in a healthy way—is one of the biggest predictors of strong, lasting relationships. Yet, some women refuse to develop this skill. Instead, they let every mood swing dictate how they treat others.
One moment, they’re kind and loving. The next, they’re cold and distant. Small disagreements turn into explosive fights. Instead of communicating, they expect people to “just know” what’s wrong. Over time, this instability wears people down.
Emotions are valid, but how you handle them matters. If you don’t take control of your feelings, your relationships will always feel like a rollercoaster—and not the fun kind.
6) They push people away out of fear
Not all toxic habits come from a place of selfishness—sometimes, they come from fear.
Some women have been hurt before, so they build walls. They assume people will leave, so they push them away first. They struggle to trust, so they keep their distance. Even when someone genuinely cares about them, they find reasons to doubt it.
I get it. Getting close to people is scary because it means giving them the power to hurt you. But shutting people out doesn’t prevent pain—it just guarantees loneliness.
Real connections require vulnerability. It’s okay to be cautious, but if you never let anyone in, you’ll never experience the kind of deep, meaningful relationships that make life truly fulfilling.
7) They surround themselves with the wrong people
The people you choose to keep in your life shape your mindset, your habits, and even your self-worth. If you surround yourself with negativity, drama, or toxic relationships, it’s nearly impossible to build healthy connections.
Some women stay in circles where gossip, manipulation, and competition are the norm. Others choose partners who mistreat them, yet they convince themselves that’s just how love is. Over time, these patterns become familiar—even comfortable.
But here’s the thing: You can’t build strong, fulfilling relationships if you’re constantly surrounded by people who don’t value them. If you want better relationships, start by choosing better people.
The bottom line
If you recognize yourself in any of these habits, don’t take it as a reason to feel ashamed—take it as an opportunity to grow.
The quality of your relationships is a reflection of the patterns you repeat. The good news? Patterns can change. Self-awareness is the first step.
Start paying attention to how you show up in your relationships. Are you listening as much as you’re speaking? Are you taking responsibility for your actions? Are you surrounding yourself with the right people? Small shifts in behavior can lead to profound changes in connection.
At the core of every healthy relationship is respect—both for yourself and for others. When you cultivate that, the right people will naturally be drawn to you, and the wrong ones will fade away.
Growth isn’t about perfection. It’s about progress. And that’s always within your control.
