Author: Lucas Graham

Lucas Graham, based in Auckland, writes about the psychology behind everyday decisions and life choices. His perspective is grounded in the belief that understanding oneself is the key to better decision-making. Lucas’s articles are a mix of personal anecdotes and observations, offering readers relatable and down-to-earth advice.
Confidence & Appearance

If you really want to take control of your financial future in 2025, say hello to these 7 new habits

The start of a new year is always filled with financial goals and big dreams: paying off debt, saving for that dream vacation, or finally hitting a major milestone.

But let’s be honest—getting ahead with money takes more than wishful thinking or a budget you’ll forget about by February.

If you’re ready to take real …

Relationships & Personal Growth

8 signs someone quietly thinks you’re not on their level, according to psychology

I’ve spent countless hours diving into the depths of psychology to understand unspoken cues because not all judgments are spoken out loud.

Sometimes, people subtly show that they think they’re above you.

From condescending compliments to subtle dismissals, these quiet signs can reveal when someone believes you’re not on their level, even if they never …

Confidence & Appearance

7 subtle behaviors of men who don’t fully respect themselves

Everyone has a relationship with themselves, but sometimes, this relationship is more complex and convoluted than we’d like to acknowledge.

You might glance inwardly, examining your behavior and attitudes, and struggle to identify a sense of genuine self-respect or question if your self-perception is truly healthy or not.

How can you tell if you fully …

Confidence & Appearance

People who grew up feeling like they were never good enough often display these 7 behaviors later in life

Growing up believing you’re never quite good enough can leave lasting marks.

This belief shapes your behaviors and choices in ways that may not always be obvious. It’s like a shadow that follows you, subtly influencing your actions and decisions.

Those who’ve experienced this often develop certain patterns of behavior in their later life. And …

Confidence & Appearance

People who unconsciously avoid their parents as they get older usually exhibit these 7 behaviors

I always tell myself not to burden my parents with the challenges I face—not because they wouldn’t care, but because they’d worry endlessly without being able to help.

It’s a thought that feels protective, even considerate, yet over time, it builds a quiet wall between us.

Without realizing it, these moments of withholding can evolve …

Confidence & Appearance

People who become distant from their parents as they get older usually display these 5 behaviors

Many shifts occur as we age –  and one of those shifts is the relationship we have with our parents. It’s just a part of growing up.

This shift can stem from a variety of factors—life responsibilities, personal growth, or even unresolved conflicts from the past.

It’s a natural part of navigating adulthood, but it …

Confidence & Appearance

If you recognize these 8 signs, you’re emotionally stronger than 98% of people

Emotional strength isn’t always loud or obvious—it’s often displayed in quiet resilience and steady self-awareness.

The fact is, being emotionally strong is more about understanding them, managing them, and knowing when to express them.

While many people struggle to manage their emotions or cope with life’s challenges, a select few excel at staying grounded and …

Confidence & Appearance

If a woman uses these 7 phrases regularly, she has almost zero sincerity and class

There’s a big difference between being straightforward and being thoughtless, isn’t there?

And yet, it’s so easy to cross that line without even realizing it.

I’ve seen it happen time and again—especially in the way some women express themselves, using words that come off as insincere or, frankly, a bit harsh.

I’m not here to …